Using Body Language to Attract a Man

The Flirtation (Photo credit: Wikipedia)Physical movements and gestures that express our emotions are known as body language. It's more powerful than the spoken language, so why not use it to attract a man? How do you let a guy know you're interested in him? Would you give him a smile as you meet him at a social function? Or ask him if he'd like to go for a cup of coffee sometime? Maybe you turn on the sex appeal by dressing to catch his eye?

These are all good tactics, but one tactic that many women may not be aware of is the use of casual touch. There are different methods of 'touching' in a flirtatious way such as touching his arm to get his attention or brushing by him when you pass. Both of these can turn up the attraction factor but proceed with caution because, this can be interpreted as a flirting behavior intended to arouse sexual interest. Not a good idea on the first encounter in my opinion. After all, how well do you know this guy? You could be flirting with danger!

However, if your goal is to ignite a spark with a guy you're already acquainted with... casual touch can work very well for you.

Listen, sexy women aren't afraid to lay a friendly hand on a man's shoulder or make physical contact when doing an activity together. Irresistible women are not shy around men, modest maybe but not shy. They know the quickest way to ignite a spark with a man is to let their bodies do some talking.

If you feel worry or concern about getting physically close to a guy, you may be sending a repelling message without even realizing it. The casual touch is an innocent yet effective body language gesture. Rediscover the pleasures of touch if you want to have an advantage with men.

What Size is Your Personal Space Bubble

Everyone requires a certain degree of personal space when they interact with others. Your personal space is like an invisible bubble surrounding you. When people intrude on that space, you might feel uncomfortable. The size of your bubble depends on the situation, how well you know the other person and some other factors.

For instance, if you're at a club dancing your sense of personal space can be less than if you were at the club eating dinner. You might feel comfortable sitting close to a female friend but then sit on the other end of the couch when the other person is strange to you. If you're bubble is extremely large, you could be making it difficult for men to approach you.

Women who've grown up with male siblings can have a distinct advantage, because they are used to physical contact with guys in a playful, friendly way. Have you ever noticed when playing with small children that they don't have a sense of personal boundaries? Learn to enjoy the warm reassurance of a casual touch.

The next time you're at a club or a party, flirt by deliberately entering a man's personal space. If you're chatting with a guy who seems nervous, then try stepping closer to him and see how he reacts. Does he give you that deer in the headlights look? Does he step away? If so, he's probably not ready to do the tango, if you catch my drift.

Then again, if you are flirting with a confident guy, this same move may be the sign he needs that you are interested in him too. When you get that close to him, it will be a simple movement for him to slide his arm around your waist, brush your shoulder or smell your hair. Simply by entering into his personal space, you've
given him an opening to take matters to the next stage.

The Casual Brush

When you're really attracted to a male, let him know that it's okay to make advances. Find an opportunity to touch his sleeve or his arm. Come up to him and get his attention not by a word but by a touch on the shoulder. Casually brush past him, letting your shoulder or hip skim his.

This technique should be used carefully so that it doesn't appear overt or aggressive. Never use an abrupt or forceful motion that will startle him or make him spill his drink. Make movements that are smooth and gentle (as if you were a butterfly), leave slowly and hesitantly as if to let him wonder if he imagined it.

For this particular task to work, he must believe that your reaching out to touch him was a spontaneous urge and a response to your feelings for him. It's okay if you feel shy or embarrassed afterward. In fact, it can even be more effective!

Have Him Help You Out

Saving the best for last, the best opportunity to get close with a man is to do some activity together that requires that he helps you out (I've seen this around the pool table countless times). Ask him if he can show you how to hold a pool queue and line up a shot, he'll have to wrap his arms around you and lean over your shoulder.

Exercise the perfect opportunity to get a little closer by asking him if you're holding your body in the right position and if he'll correct it.

Men enjoy to be invited to touch a woman's body. If a woman gives them the opportunity to show her how to do something by guiding her arms or holding her waist, believe me when I say they'll get a euphoric felling that will cause a rise in their pulse rate and possibly a rise in a lower region of their male autonomy.

Now that you know the astonishing force of body language to attract a man (casual touch), take advantage of it! Becoming closer to someone you're attracted to, it’s a good thing, right?

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